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Suvla1915

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Subject: The Final Count -Down Posted: Thursday, December 5, 2013 - 12:54:16

How long can one letter take? Still heard nothing today. It\'s not like she\'s composing a sonnet! My holidays are fixed so I can\'t take a day\'s holiday. I know it\'s a personal matter but I don\'t have a choice about going. I have no intention of telling my boss anything of a personal nature ever again as he is a nasty nosy man and will use anything I say against me. He preys on people when they\'re vulnerable and I don\'t intend to give him the chance to pick on me again. May just have to develop a migraine! Still wondering about how soon before the hearing I should expect to have to be asking about a barrister getting \"bundles\" prepared - why did a barrister send the offer letter for you? Would that be worth doing? I would like to know what a barrister would consider a likely outcome. Very worried because so little time around work and uni commitments.

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LazyLizzie

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Posted: Thursday, December 5, 2013 - 12:54:16

Re the 3 weeks. The letter your solicitor is due to send will impact on the rest of your life - no going back. Perhaps the delay is down to her taking her time and ensuring that it says exactly what you want and not having any errors in it? My barrister drafted an offer letter and it was full of mistakes - I was angry and amused at the same time (it didn\'t even add up!) I rewrote it for her. As to the day off. Are you asking for it as holiday or compassionate leave? Most bosses can fit round days off for holiday but there is no requirement for him to give you time off for what is a strictly personal issue. Have you told them at work that you are due back in court? If not you could ask them for a days leave to deal with a very personal matter and allow him to think you have a medical problem (its how I get quick half days for job interviews!)

Suvla1915

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Posted: Thursday, December 5, 2013 - 12:54:16

How long can one letter take? Still heard nothing today. It\'s not like she\'s composing a sonnet! My holidays are fixed so I can\'t take a day\'s holiday. I know it\'s a personal matter but I don\'t have a choice about going. I have no intention of telling my boss anything of a personal nature ever again as he is a nasty nosy man and will use anything I say against me. He preys on people when they\'re vulnerable and I don\'t intend to give him the chance to pick on me again. May just have to develop a migraine! Still wondering about how soon before the hearing I should expect to have to be asking about a barrister getting \"bundles\" prepared - why did a barrister send the offer letter for you? Would that be worth doing? I would like to know what a barrister would consider a likely outcome. Very worried because so little time around work and uni commitments.

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Posted: Thursday, December 5, 2013 - 12:54:15

Hi sulva - Yes, 3 weeks does seem a very long time and you\'d think solicitors would be a bit more understanding of how anxious people going through this process will be!! 3 weeks ago would have been around Easter, so I wonder if your solicitor\'s office is making excuses a bit while they deal with a backlog of work over Easter when some of their staff probably took a week or so off? Doesn\'t help you I know! As for preparation, the most important thing for you is to stay calm and be clear about what level of offer you are willing to accept. Personally, I read through all the stuff solicitor\'s had sent, etc. but didn\'t worry about the detail. It\'s really the job of your solicitor / barrister (if you are having one) to be prepared. As for the September offer, this sounds to me like potential for him to have to pay costs since then, as you were prepared to settle? In my case, my solicitor prepared the \'bundle\' and scheduled/ instructed my barrister. The bundle is just a copy of all the pertinent documents for the case. You shouldn\'t have to ask them to do anything, they should do it as a matter of course in preparation for going to court. My barrister only dealt with offers on the day, not any correspondence or offer letters. They went and spoke to my x\'s barrister, then came back with verbal offers, back and forth they went!! Regarding time off work, without knowing anything about what organisation you work for, it seems totally unrealistic not to have some process in place for people to have days off for various purposes - doctor visits, children ill, boiler blows up, you get the idea. It sounds like your boss is a control freak, so perhaps the easiest way will be to have the day off sick. If you wanted to you might also check with HR to see what the policy is, but from what you say, I suspect if you \'get difficult\' by doing something official, he\'ll just make your life more miserable. What an idiot! While I don\'t wish divorce or personal problems on anyone, I wonder what would happen if he suddenly needed time off!? Please please please try to relax and stay positive. You are so nearly there! In a few more weeks, you\'ll have a settlement and be able to put this behind you. I hope it all goes well and am sending loads of positive thoughts! Please post and let us know how you get on. Take care, Bon

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Posted: Thursday, December 5, 2013 - 12:55:03

Solicitors prepare the bundle. It doesn\'t have to be lodged until 4 days before the hearing and frequently done at the last minute.

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Posted: Thursday, December 5, 2013 - 12:54:16

Stay calm Suvla - nearly there now... Quietly plan to develope a migraine - you need the time and DON\'T need hassle about it. Hold your nerve, talk with your sol - ring daily until you talk with her if she is elusive - make yourself No 1 in her prority list... My sol negotiated over the phone with exh and exh\'s sol just 1 week before the court for FH and those last few weeks were the worst of the whole thing - it was a game - who could hold out longest... In my case though he had a lot more to lose than I did! Hold your nerve - just a week or two now and you can begin to put it behind you. Onwards and Upwardsx
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