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Subject: is it illegal? Posted: Thursday, December 5, 2013 - 12:55:03

Unfortunately this isn\'t at all uncommon. The PWC provokes a reaction by unilaterally making a decision about contact, the NRP reacts with threats of financial withdrawal, in turn the PWC reacts and the NRP issues more threats etc etc. Whatever damage may have come to the children\'s emotional well being from seeing the new partner(s) it is insignificant compared to the treadmill of provocation and retaliation associated with highly conflicted divorces. Still, it was very wrong of H not to treat contact and finances separately. The finances here were always going to be tricky. It is illegal to move or dispose of assets with the intention of defeating or reducing someone else\'s claim. Under these circumstances someone would be heavily penalized and ordered to pay the other side\'s legal costs. However, as your solicitor says it\'s OK if you are up front.

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Posted: Thursday, December 5, 2013 - 12:55:03

Unfortunately this isn\'t at all uncommon. The PWC provokes a reaction by unilaterally making a decision about contact, the NRP reacts with threats of financial withdrawal, in turn the PWC reacts and the NRP issues more threats etc etc. Whatever damage may have come to the children\'s emotional well being from seeing the new partner(s) it is insignificant compared to the treadmill of provocation and retaliation associated with highly conflicted divorces. Still, it was very wrong of H not to treat contact and finances separately. The finances here were always going to be tricky. It is illegal to move or dispose of assets with the intention of defeating or reducing someone else\'s claim. Under these circumstances someone would be heavily penalized and ordered to pay the other side\'s legal costs. However, as your solicitor says it\'s OK if you are up front.

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Posted: Thursday, December 5, 2013 - 12:54:15

It\'s not illegal but if it\'s caused him to pay more on the mortgage for you and the children because it was an offset one can he not nominate your other account as an additional off set mortgage account. Call up your mortgage company yourself. I t sounds like you never knew that much about the family finances which is very strange. A crash course on finances, tax, pensions and ensure in future you know everything about a spouse\'s affairs is wise, one flesh, total dislcosure, complete knowledge of the other person is wise.

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Posted: Thursday, December 5, 2013 - 12:54:16

yes i have to agree with you er. i always understood finances before i met my husband. because he is that much more astute with money than i am and always seemed to know how to make it, i just let him get on with it while i looked after children. he never discussed finances and after asking so many times and getting defensive answers etc i just stopped. trust was a huge issue in our marriage. he was/is a compulsive liar and after a while i just stopped listening to him about anything. he was very subtle with his mind games and sometimes brutally evil with them. it was never a \'marriage\' in more ways than one!
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