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Subject: Some advice about the CSA please Posted: Thursday, December 5, 2013 - 12:54:15

Hi maths - How was the wining and dining? I hope you had a great night! Kat - spoil yourself - nice bottle of wine, good film, long soak in bath, whatever you enjoy. Take care both and have a great weekend, Bon

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sometimesitdoesn'twork

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Posted: Thursday, December 5, 2013 - 12:55:03

The CSA staff have no discretion and even those who live off benefits need to pay something. If the NRP\'s net weekly income is more than £100 a week, but less than £200 you will pay a standard amount of £5 on the first £100 and for 1 child 25% of net weekly income over £100 a week, but less than £200.

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Posted: Thursday, December 5, 2013 - 12:54:16

MathsTA, Good to hear from you in a way(if you get what I mean) how did you get on with the CSA? I would hope that once you had explained that finacially you will find it hard to live if you have to pay a large sum to your ex that you have maybe come to some arrangement with them about paying CM. If you have to pay any arrears and your ex has only recently applied to the CSA it will only be arrears from the date of his claim and no further back than that which is one saving grace. Let us know how it went please be interested to see whether they actually listen to people\'s plights or just do as they wish.

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Posted: Thursday, December 5, 2013 - 12:54:16

Thanks SIDW. I didn\'t really know how far reaching their powers are but I do now! They have already contacted where I work and found how much I earn. Thanks Kat, it\'s good to talk to you. Yes, thankfully it will only be from last month and nothing has as yet been set up. I have to say the man I spoke to was very fair and understanding of the situation. He said a caseworker would be informed of the background details, ie me owing so much to my Sol but other than that they cannot get involved in any issue of contact. I feel he listened to what I said and accepted that I could not pay anything til I get paid later this month. I am glad I took a deep breath and contacted them. I am hoping against hope that some \'sleuthing\' I have done in recent weeks will pay off and the Judge will have the power to push things on further when we have to return to Court later this month. I felt so relieved yesterday that a big weight had been taken off my shoulder, then I went out to get some shopping. On the radio in the car they were playing \'Don\'t Give Up\'by Peter Gabriel and Kate Bush. The part when she sings, \'don\'t give up cos you have friends\' just made me burst into tears which I actually felt a lot better for! It\'s so easy to think that life is awful without appreciating all the good things that there and I know that I have a great deal - much more than he does. I don\'t feel anger towards him, just this weary feeling of when does he give up? I mostly feel sorry for him. Anyway, thanks to anyone who took the time to read this. I\'m having a large glass of wine and reading a Bill Bryson book and if anyone can think of a better way to spend time I\'d like to hear it!! Good night one and all P xx

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Posted: Thursday, December 5, 2013 - 12:54:16

Yes I bet that was a relief, And can I think of another way to spend time, actually having a glass of wine watching the kids laughing and having fun together in the sun with other family members just about does it for me. Have a great day tomorrow xxx

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Posted: Thursday, December 5, 2013 - 12:54:16

Thank you for kind words, kat. You have to hang onto the good things in life and the people that make it worth carrying on for. I have a lovely man coming over in a while to wine and dine me and it\'s lovely being spoilt every now and then. Will update after next hearing - til then anyone who\'s going through this, just keep on going. It does end!!!

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Posted: Thursday, December 5, 2013 - 12:54:16

Oh a man to wine and dine you how lucky, I hope you have a wonderful evening together. And I would love to be spoilt maybe oneday in the future, not quite ready for that just yet lol. Speak very soon much love and good luck at the hearing xxx

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Posted: Thursday, December 5, 2013 - 12:54:15

Hi maths - How was the wining and dining? I hope you had a great night! Kat - spoil yourself - nice bottle of wine, good film, long soak in bath, whatever you enjoy. Take care both and have a great weekend, Bon

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Posted: Thursday, December 5, 2013 - 12:54:16

Thanks guys - wining and dining was great AND he stays over. Just don\' t tell my parents! This is a recent relationship, gentle and easygoing and it IS fantastic to be taken out and spoilt. Can\'t imagine ex is having any fun like this - too busy in his hatred of me and desire to control to be able to move on.
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